Relationships mean everything. They influence us in many ways and we often don’t notice.
When it comes to self-care and relationships, boundaries play a huge role in how we balance our work/life stress and relationships. Identifying healthy relationship boundaries is important so you can feel fulfilled and satisfied.
What are healthy boundaries?
I will share two quick boundaries you can implement in your life today.
Boundaries are what make you feel comfortable and safe in relationships. Boundaries help guide how you will interact with someone else and the voice inside that tells you that you may be pushing your limit. By setting healthy boundaries, you are protecting yourself from getting hurt by others and you are protecting your relationship.
One important healthy boundary is knowing you can say no. I understand that there are times you will say yes to others around you and may you see this as a way you are helping, but you must be aware of when this begins to impact your lifestyle balance.
Some questions to ask yourself would be:
Are you not attending to certain responsibilities due to others?
Does saying yes lead you to feel stressed, anxious or overwhelmed?
Do you want to be getting more from others in order to meet your needs?
Do the people around you ignore you when you say no?
If you answered yes to any of the questions above, it may be a great time to start incorporating saying no sometimes.
I know you may be thinking, “but I can’t, my (fill in the blank with the person) may get mad at me or make me feel guilty.” Relationships involve a give and take, and if you are feeling overwhelmed and anxious and stressed out, I’m sure the other person on the other end would be willing to help you out, they may just not know that you need the help. Sometimes saying no to someone else, is helping yourself out.
Know your own expectations
Sometimes we get upset at others because of something that was not done or at least not done how we wanted. This comes down to expectations. First, you must be able to know your own expectations and then be able to relay that message to those around you.
Expectations can involve:
How you want to be loved
How you want to be supported
Who you want to turn to when feeling down
No one can read minds and no one can know exactly what you want. Therefore, share what your expectations are with your friends and family. Let them know how you can rely on them and how they can rely on you.
How can you do this more frequently?
Constantly check-in with yourself.
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