Have you ever felt like there is a loss of desire in your relationship? Recently in my couple’s therapy sessions, I have heard a common theme: the desire to feel wanted and sexy.
For many couples, the “flame of desire” can go out when couples get stuck in routines and find themselves on auto-pilot mode. What makes it challenging is trying to get “the spark back.” Such a daunting task because so many questions come to mind “Do he/she still see me attractive?” “Will our sex even be the same?” “Will he/she reject me if I try to initiate sex?” “Why do I have to initiate sex? Why doesn’t he/she ever initiate sex?” “Why don’t you just notice me?” And the list of questions goes on.
If my partner notices me, makes me feel sexy, initiates sex with me, then this will mean ____ about our marriage/about me. Only you know what this will mean for you and your relationship. But knowing this part of you, will be a good reminder to continue to take the risk of reigniting your flame.
So how do you feel sexy in your relationship?
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