Holiday Gift Guide based on your Partner’s Love Language

​Are you struggling to figure out what fun gift to get your partner this holiday season? Try incorporating their love language into the gift that you decide to get your partner. Here are some ideas to think about when shopping with your partner's love language in mind!

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What is a Love Language?

Before sharing some fun ideas, the 5 Love Languages is based on Gary Chapman's research on how people identify they are being loved and how they value certain behaviors. All the love languages are important, but some people may prioritize some over the others. If you haven't taken the quiz or read the book, be sure to check out the book here and quiz here!

Physical Touch

​If your partner feels loved when physical touch is done, then they may love the following gifts. Remember, that with physical touch, they want this touch from you. Taking your time during physical touch is important and communicates that you want to experience this moment with them.
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• Massage oil​​

• Give them a massage

• Bath Bombs​

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• A new blanket or PJs and making time for cuddling
• Have fun spontaneous sex (this can mean that it is spontaneous for your partner, but you have already planned how special it will be beforehand)

Receiving Gifts

If this is your partner’s love language, you know that they have put so much thought into the gifts they will be gifting other people and are secretly hoping that other people will put in the same thought into the gifts they will be receiving. Chances are that your partner has already mentioned a gift that would be a really cool or a good idea to have around the house. 

• A big tip here is to gift them something they have already verbalized, as this speaks to the fact that you are also listening to your partner.
• Remember that intentionality and sincerity in the gift is more important than the price tag.
• Put together a creative gift
• Some thoughts are to also gift something that is personable and useful, so think about your partner’s interests and hobbies. 

​Quality Time

With quality time, the focus is being intentional and present with minimal distractions. If your partner perceives quality time as a way of feeling loved, then some of these gift ideas may help. Another tip to keep in mind is that quality time does not mean quantity. Some of these ideas can be anywhere from 20 minutes to spending a weekend together.​
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• A fun puzzle or painting together

• Play a fun game together

• Cook together and explore a new meal together

• Plan an activity around town for just the two of you and make the itinerary the gift
• Plan a secret weekend getaway for the two of you
• Take an  online relationship course together 

Acts of Service 

​Actions speak louder than words! This rings true for people who value acts of service. If your partner’s love language is acts of service, here are some gift ideas.
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• Make them breakfast in bed ​
• Do more around the house (i.e. chores, running errands, helping check things off their to-do list) without being asked to help
• Hire a cleaning service before and after the holidays​

​Words of Affirmation 

Everyone loves compliments, and while that is a great place to start, people who value words of affirmation prioritize openness and verbal acknowledgments. If your partner’s love language is words of affirmation, consider some of the following gift ideas. 
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• Journal for couples​

• Share affirmations with each other

• Write a love letter

• Leaving “why I love you” message​s on post-it notes

​I hope this fun guide helps toggle some ideas when thinking of getting a gift for your partner this holiday season and any occasion in the future!

If you haven’t already downloaded theLove Language translation table you can do so here! 

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By Priscilla Rodriguez, M.S., LMFT

Priscilla specializes in working with couples and helping them learn ways to maintain their connection with each other. Priscilla utilizes research based techniques to help couples form a secure relationship foundation. Learn more on how you can enhance your relationship today.