According to leading relationship researcher John Gottman, finding ways to express intentional appreciation towards your partner is a way to implement a positive interaction with your partner and one simple and free way to make your relationship strong.
Have you ever felt like there is a loss of desire in your relationship? Recently in my couple’s therapy sessions, I have heard a common theme: the desire to feel wanted and sexy.
Talking about what turns you on can feel a little embarrassing or awkward if you are not comfortable with conversations being about you, more specifically, if you sometimes feel guilty or selfish to verbalize ways you enjoy feeling good.
I have discussed in a previous blog series of how to maintain intimacy and passion in your long-term relationship, and while this approach is thinking more of the long term stability of intimacy, I know there are times in which you and your partner are experiencing differences in your desire. In fact, one study found that 80% of couples experienced a sexual desire discrepancy in their relationship (Rehman et al., 2011). So, don’t worry if this happens, it’s more common than you think.
Becoming parents brings a lot of joy, but with it comes a lot of stress as well. Communication between partners can break down, and they can often begin to drift apart. According to research published in Demography, 73 percent of surveyed parents expressed decreased happiness after the birth of their first child.
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